Preacher dating his wife
He is only a couple of years older than me, so honestly, if he wasn't my youth pastor, it wouldn't be that weird.Would it be inappropriate if after I graduate high school and leave the group we were to pursue a relationship?
: We are not trained psychologists or licensed professionals.Please receive this word of caution out of concern not condemnation.Before you venture down this road too quickly (even in your mind), please respect the ministry your youth pastor has been called to and the role he plays within the church. He is called to live a life above reproach with no “appearance of immorality.” Because of his position and your age, any contact between the two of you outside of sanctioned youth and church activities (or in private) may be construed as improper conduct.I strongly suggest you don’t proceed, encourage, manipulate or promote a relationship or contact with your youth pastor beyond the bounds of “official” youth group activities.If a relationship with your youth pastor is truly called by God, a couple of months (or years), as in the case of those I have worked under in youth ministry.We're just average folk who understand what it's like to live the solo life in the twenty-first century.
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I don't think that is that surprising, because he's an older guy and probably the most godly man I know.
But here's the thing: I think he might like me, too.
What may seem like an innocent attraction at this point, can jeopardize and derail what God has planned for him and the lives of those surrounding the both of you. I caution you about sharing your feelings with anyone except for a much older, mature, female confidant who is well acquainted with each of you.
Discussing it, even with a friend you “trust,” may lead to envy, jealousy, gossip, hearsay or rumors, all of which will be detrimental to his ministry and the group.
What often gets us into trouble is following the tug of our heart rather than prayerfully seeking an answer and waiting for God’s timing. Will they continue to learn from his teaching uninterrupted and glean understanding from their Bible studies with him?